Stress in EMS part 1

Stress.  It’s all around us.  Those that work in EMS know this all too well.

Even though we experience a tremendous amount of stress, and I’m not just talking about the “easy” part, which in my opinion is taking care of the patient, but all the parts that make up our job…this all causes us stress.

Despite this stress, we keep showing up to work. We are high functioning people. 

But, I have a sneaking suspicion that how you are actually dealing with, or managing your stress is contributing to more stress.

I’m pretty familiar with this way of dealing with the stress for myself, and I get to see how my husband who is also a full time flight paramedic deals with it.

And, I see it all over social media.  We have been taught how to deal with our stress by watching others, and advertising.

After a hard day at work, I bet you have the thought “I could really use a drink”, or “I just need a snack to take the edge off”. 

Most of us deal with stress by drinking alcohol, eating snacks or comfort food, binge watching TV, gaming, social media, online shopping, or watching porn.

You might think, “What’s the big deal”, or “It works for me”.  This is a lie your brain in telling you so you’ll keep engaging in these false pleasures.  False pleasure have net negative consequences on the other side.  Weight gain, addiction, dependance, avoidance, distraction, and added stress.

This added stress disrupts our sleep, our emotional bandwidth, thoughts about ourselves, creates unbalanced hormones, lack of energy and so on.

But my friend, it’s not your fault.  It’s a sign that your brain is working perfectly.  Your brain (the primitive brain to be exact) is just trying to help you.  It wants you to survive. It drives you to seek pleasure at any cost to get away from the negative feelings (stress, overwhelm, fear).  All of the false pleasures do this very quickly. 

The primitive brain can’t see past the current moment it is in.  Most of us are living from our primitive brain.  We are reactionary (ah, hello…EMS! Totally reactionary medicine).  We do what we want in the moment and don’t think about the consequences on the other side.

There is a solution.  It takes practice and patience.

Awareness is a big part.  Learning techniques to process and work through the stress.  Recognize when we are using false pleasure and learn to question ourselves in those moments.

In the upcoming week, I’ll talk more about the solutions, but for now, I just want you to be aware of how you are using false pleasures in your life to manage your stress.

I’d love to hear from you.  Send me a DM or email.

Have a great week!!

xo.  Valerie

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Weigh in

quarterly weigh in got you down?
I’m right there with ya man.⁠
I hate the weigh in days. This one really snuck up on me.⁠
Using food to make myself feel better has been happening more frequently than I’d like to admit.⁠
If you are tired of your Tight Flight Suit, it’s time to do something about it.⁠
I’ll be hosting a three day (90 min sessions) Workshop next week. You will create a custom eating protocol that you will actually want to follow AND gets you the weight loss you are looking for.⁠
Imagine feeling confident and comfortable in your Flight Suit!! ⁠
In the Workshop, you will lean the three reasons why you haven’t been able to lose weight, 12 tools to create a protocol, and strategies to overcome your biggest obstacles.⁠
If you start now, by your next weigh in you’ll be down at least one size in your flight suit.⁠
The best news is this workshop is ONLY$99 for all three days. ⁠
If you are READY to stop dreading putting on your uniform, head over –>> https://www.hemscoach.com/protocolsignup/ It will take you to my website where you can sign up for the life changing workshop RFN.⁠
DM me with questions.⁠
xoxo. Valerie⁠

What should I eat?

What should I eat?
There’s a lot of confusion out there when it comes to what we “should” or “shouldn’t” be eating.⁠
The question I hear the most is “What should I eat?” ⁠
My follow up questions is “What do you want to do?” ⁠
✅ Lose Weight⁠
✅ Burn Fat⁠
✅ Gain Muscle⁠
✅ Reduce Inflammation⁠
✅ Balance Hormones⁠
✅ Eliminate Cravings⁠
The food you put in your body will directly influence your results.⁠
The answer is complex and different for each person.⁠
This is what inspired me to create a workshop that will answer this question.⁠
The Protocol Creation Workshop will help you create a way of eating with tools, not rules.⁠
But first, you need to know WHY you haven’t been able to permanently lose weight in the past….this is the science of weight loss. Neurobiology, Biology, and Psychology to be exact. You need this information to create a protocol that will get you the results you’re looking for. ⁠
Next, you need tools to create a protocol that works for you. Not someone else’s rules. When you create your protocol, you are more likely to follow it. I’ll teach you 12 tools to create a protocol that you’ll actually WANT to follow and fits in your life.⁠
Finally, we need to address what keeps getting in your way. These are obstacles, and we need to identify them so that we can come up with strategies to overcome them. This piece is VITAL to your permanent weight loss.⁠
This “Protocol Creation Workshop” is going to be a game changer for you. These are lifetime tools, not gimmicks or fads. ⁠
This Workshop will be over three days, 90 min each and it starts NEXT WEEK. ⁠
All this for only $99. To sign up, click the button below!
See you on Monday!⁠

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Feeling Less

Feeling Less vs Feeling better

Listen up EMS….your goal should not be to feel less stress.⁠

You are going to feel that way because of the jobs we do. ⁠

The goal is to learn how to process your stress in a way that does not create MORE stress.⁠

We try to feel less stress by distracting ourselves from it. Eating, drinking, shopping, TV watching, gambling, porn…this does not make you feel less stress. ⁠

The problem is that in the moments we are distracting ourselves from the stress, we feel good thanks to thinking about the food/ETOH, etc and the dopamine hit we get from doing those things. ⁠

Your feeling of stress will wait for you. It always does. Now, you’ve just compounded your stress. And, you feel worse. ⁠

Look, I’ve been there, hell, I still go there. I get it. It still is not the solution to the stress.⁠

Just being aware that this is going on is super helpful. Pay attention.⁠

xo. Valerie⁠

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PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

You can do it

We can do it

I love being a female paramedic.⁠

I decided 20+ years ago that THIS would be my career.⁠

What I wish I had back then was SUPPORT from the other females, family, friends, and co-workers.⁠

People were constantly telling me why I shouldn’t do this, that this job is not for women, I would never be able to be a mom AND still work my crazy hours, that the job would destroy me both mentally and physically.⁠

I can’t image what my career would look like if I’d heard the opposite.⁠

Has this job been hard at times? Hell yes it has. Has it nearly broken me? Yep. But, I am not fragile. I can do hard things.⁠

I created a FB group that is just for Women in EMS, where women go to get encouraged, supported, and told “Yes, you CAN do this”. It’s the most beautiful thing.⁠

On the anniversary of 9/11/2001 I asked the ladies to share their memories from that day, and it was EMOTIONAL to read them all. We have ladies that were babies….yes babies when it happened, and many ladies who had family members at Ground Zero and some that were there themselves. To have a group where the women felt safe to share and be so vulnerable was such a gift to us all.⁠

My hope is that ALL EMS WOMEN will be in this group.

It’s gonna be fun to see what we can accomplish. ⁠

Love you ladies. See you inside.⁠

xox. Valerie⁠

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I can’t sleep

When you can't sleep

I’m not talking about when you’re at work and can’t sleep. ⁠

I’m talking about when you are at home, in your own bed, and you j u s t. C a n ‘ t. S l e e p! 🤬⁠

You toss and turn. You try all the things to get the F*ck to sleep and nothing works. ⁠

Finally morning arrives, and it feels like you’ve been hit by a bus. Eyes puffy from lack of sleep. You are dragging. No amount of coffee can help. All you talk about all day is how you didn’t get any sleep. You’re so tired. You’re exhausted. You need a nap. You eat a bunch of crap food to try and wake up. You can’t do anything because you are so tired. On and on.⁠

This was me for years. I mean decades. I told myself this is why I was in EMS. I can’t sleep most nights, so I might as well be up taking care of sick people! ⁠

I learned a ton about sleep and changed many of my habits. But, every once in a while, I will have a night where despite my good sleep hygiene and pre-sleep routine, I just can’t sleep.⁠

So what do you do after a sleepless night?⁠

You need a mindset upgrade. ⁠

Stop telling everyone how tired you are. No one cares. Sorry, not sorry.⁠

Stop living in the problem, it’s just going to make you more tired! 🤯⁠

Think some thoughts that will create energy instead of depleting it.⁠

Here are some of the ones I use…⁠

I have all the energy I need to get this done.⁠
I create energy with my thoughts.⁠
I can be tired AND make lunch.⁠
I can be tired AND take the dog for a walk.⁠
I can take a nap if I want to.⁠
I can listen to my body and make good choices.⁠

Was I tired all day? Yeppers. Did I do less than I normally do? Sure did. Did I beat the crap out of myself for having a slow day? Nope.⁠

Hope you sleep well tonight my friends!⁠

xo. Valerie⁠

PS.Did you hear? I’m hosting a Workshop in mid October on how to create an eating protocol {you will actually follow} for Weight Loss. It’s going to be just what you need to head in to the holiday season and not gain more weight! If you are interested, send me a DM and I’ll give you more deets. ⁠

PPS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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10-22

val in safety vest
10-22⁠
Who know’s that 10 code? ⁠
I know 10-22 as cancel. Some of the best words we can hear on the job….you can cancel! ⁠
In other words, you don’t need to respond.⁠
This is also an option in other areas of your life! ⁠
You actually don’t have to respond to emails, text messages, comments on social or IRL.⁠
I learned a new tool the other day, and I’m putting a spin on it…meet the 10-22 habit. The learned and practiced habit of NOT RESPONDING.⁠
Not everything in this world needs your attention, comment, or response. Your life could dramatically improve if you add the 10-22 habit to your daily practice.⁠
See some nasty comment on your social feed? 10-22.⁠
Your brain offers a suggestion of a snack….10-22.⁠
Fellow driver cuts you off? 10-22.⁠
The act of not responding is for your benefit…not theirs. When you get all spun up, YOU suffer. Not “them”.⁠
Try it. Tell me how it feels 🙂
Have a great week! xoxo. Valerie⁠

 

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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Do your Part

Are you doing your part?⁠

We like to talk about all the reasons why we “can’t” do our part when it comes to our weight loss (or life for that matter!)⁠

🔹My work schedule is too irregular⁠
🔹My kids love to eat pasta⁠
🔹I have to stay up late doing the dishes and laundry⁠
🔹I’m just too tired⁠
🔹My spouse doesn’t support me⁠
🔹It’s too expensive⁠

I used to call these excuses. ⁠

Now, I call them obstacles.⁠

When we call them excuses, we are acting like victims. Like we have no control over them.⁠

When we call them obstacles, we feel more in control. Like we can overcome them.⁠

Are you doing your part in creating ways to overcome your own obstacles?⁠

I can’t do this for you. YOU have to do YOUR part.⁠

You actually don’t need to know how…you just have to have the desire to figure it out.⁠

Get creative. Remember, losing weight is not complicated. ⁠

🔸Assess hunger/fullness⁠
🔸Begin upping your water intake⁠
🔸Commit to protecting and prioritizing your sleep⁠
🔸Decide what you will eat ahead of time⁠
🔸Exercise. No crazy work out..just move your bod.⁠

What obstacles are really getting in the way of you doing that? Do your part and overcome them!⁠

xoxo. Valerie⁠

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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Hello There…

Hello There!

Well Hello there!⁠

In case you’re new around here I wanted to take a minute and tell you a bit about me and how I got here. ⁠

I’m going to do it EMS Report style with my favorite format…VOMIT…⁠

V= Vitals…Flight Paramedic. Married. Three kids. Coach. Blogger.⁠

O= Origin..West/Central Wisconsin, originally from Minnesota⁠

M= Mechanism…married. divorced. moved. married. 3 kids in 4 years. 100# weight gain. two knee surgeries. sick all of the time. hot mess express (aka hormones).⁠

I= Interventions…hired a Life Coach, hot yoga, meditation, walking.⁠

T= Treatments…coaching, reduced sugar and flour, limited ETOH, listen to my bodies signals, mindset upgrade, stress reduction, sleep improvement, and increased water intake ⁠

The result of this HARD work? Down 50#, completely new attitude, feeling better than I have in two decades, became a Certified Life and Weight Loss Coach and started my own Coaching practice and helping other EMS professionals improve their Well Being and Lose Weight!⁠

To grab a copy of a Free Training on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS, click the blue button below!

xoxo. Valerie

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Fear

Valerie Bestland Before & After

Stop waiting for the perfect time to go after a goal.⁠

Waiting for “Perfect” is just another way to say you are afraid.⁠

That’s ok, just be honest with yourself.⁠

Being afraid holds us back from living into our full potential. ⁠

A few quotes I love (not sure who they are from)⁠
feel the fear and do it anyway” ⁠
“You can do it afraid”⁠
“fear does not mean stop”⁠
“fear is just a vibration in your body, it can’t harm you”⁠

And, my own quote “what is the difference between fear and excitement? A thought”⁠

🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

I was so afraid to “try” to lose weight again. I had wasted so much money and time on all the BS “diets” out there. ⁠

It was humiliating to gain and lose, gain and lose over and over again.⁠

One day, I had enough and pressed “complete order” and signed up for a coaching program. I have never regretted it.

Sure, my weight has gone up and down. But what I know now, is the REAL reason why I gain and lose weight. ⁠

It’s not from the foods I eat or don’t eat…the work outs I do or don’t do..It begins with a Thought.⁠

How we THINK determines the RESULTS we get.⁠

Send me a DM if you are ready to feel the fear and sign up for my Weight Loss & Well-Being Coaching program. ⁠

xox. Valerie⁠

PS. Check out a FREE training I created just for those of us in EMS.  Click the blue button below to watch the video.

Cinco de Mayo

Margarita
Cinco de Mayo
 
I have spent many years using this day as an EXCUSE to OVERinduldge.
 
Now, since paving my path to permanent weight loss I approach this day as an EXCEPTION in my eating protocol which has been well planned out ahead of time.
 
As a weight loss coach, one of the fundamentals I teach is something called Pre-Frontal Planning.
 
This means we use our Pre-Frontal Cortex to plan what we will eat and drink ahead of time. NOT in the moment with our Primitive Brain.
 
Why does this matter?
 
Most of us live our life by making decisions from our Primitive Brain: I want it NOW. Instant satisfaction. MORE, MORE, MORE. It’s like the devil on your shoulder whispering in your ear…”you totally deserve that drink today. You worked hard. Go ahead, have it.” Living from and making decisions from the Primitive Brain feels good in the moment. Unfortunately, it can’t predict how you will feel LATER.
 
It can’t foresee that pleasure from OVEReating now will result in weight gain LATER.
 
Pre-Frontal Planning is using the part of our brain that can predict the future consequences of decisions. If…then… If I drink now, then I will feel terrible later.
 
If I OVEReat I will see an increase on the scale.
 
When we plan our food and drink ahead of time, we do so with our future in mind.
 
We can make decisions based on our LONG term goals, which will feel amazing.

 

  • I have decided that I will have two Margaritas today.
  • I have decided that I will have homemade chips, salsa and guacamole today.
  • I have decided that I will eat baked Mexican chicken casserole today.
  • I will stop eating when I feel just satisfied. Not full.
  • I will not overeat.
 
I also make this exception knowing that I might now see the scale go down this week.
 
I’m ok with that. This is the EXCEPTION not my daily RULE.
One last thing….don’t think for a SECOND that this is EASY.
 
Our Primitive Brains are what evolved the humans.
 
It will not sit quietly while I eat chips and salsa and wash it down with a drink.
 
I’m ok now sitting with that feeling of wanting more and not having it.
 
This takes a ton of practice and failure.
 
Happy Cinco de Mayo!
 
xo. Val

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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What’s your ETA?

helicopter in the sunset
I was out for a sunset walk last week and I saw a helicopter.⁠
Lot’s of people likely saw it. It was a beautiful night.⁠
What I realized was we all have different thoughts about what was going on in there.⁠
It’s the difference between “Thinking” and “Knowing”.⁠
Other people “think” they know what goes on in there.⁠
I “know” what happens in the heli because I work in one.⁠
Reminds me of weight loss.⁠
I used to “think” weight loss came from eating less and moving more. Calorie restriction. Counting points. Binging and purging. Low fat high carb or low carb high fat.⁠
Boy was I wrong. All that thinking got me deeper in debt and a bigger flight suit.⁠
I now “know” where weight loss comes from.⁠
I’ll give you a hint…it doesn’t come from anything outside of you. ⁠
Sure, I teach several tools for weight loss, but we always land at the same destination! ⁠
The helipad is secured and I’m awaiting your arrival.⁠
What’s your ETA???⁠
VB⁠
 

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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Consistency is KEY

“Steadfast adherence to the same principles” that is the definition of the word “Consistency”.⁠
Steadfast Adherence. That sounds pretty intense!⁠
I like the word consistent much better.⁠
If you want to lose weight, you have to be consistent.⁠
You get this intellectually…⁠
The real problem you need to solve is why aren’t you?⁠
Why aren’t you doing what you know you need to do to lose weight?⁠
Or, why do you do it for a while then stop?⁠
Until you know this answer my friend, permanent weight loss will always be a pipe dream.⁠
You might be wondering HOW do you find this out?⁠
This is the power of coaching. THIS is what I help people with.⁠
Consistency really is the KEY.⁠
Be safe out there.⁠
xo. Valerie⁠
 

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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Turbulence

val hair wind
Turbulence. 🌬️
It has been so windy around these parts lately. ⁠
As I was walking out to the AC on my last shift and my hair and ID badge where whipping around all chaotic, it made me think of how my thoughts sometimes feel in my head.⁠
Turbulent thinking…ya know when you have so many thoughts that just seems to be all over the place?⁠
Maybe it’s just me.⁠
I doubt it though.⁠
It’s estimated that we have 40,000-60,000 thoughts per day tumbling around in that head of ours. ⁠
If you are tired of feeling the effect of those turbulent thoughts, the best thing you can do is get them down on a piece of paper and take a look at them. 💭
We feel our thoughts.⁠
How do most of your thoughts make you feel? 🤔
Tell me in the comments below.⁠
Be safe up there. 🚁
Valerie⁠

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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